Our new book, Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect (Balboa Press) has been available for a few months now, and even before any formal promotional effort, the response has been all but overwhelming, with incredible social media buzz and great reviews at Amazon.com and other online booksellers. Now that our official promotional campaign has begun, including appearances on television and nationally syndicated radio as well as our Loving In The Grown Zone Book Blog Tour, we are on a mission to make Loving In The Grown Zone a national bestseller. This goal is not just about selling books, but our mission to champion what our society (and especially our children and young people) desperately needs: fewer dysfunctional, broken and destructive relationships and more loving, sustainable relationships of honor, esteem and respect.
However, we cannot succeed in this mission without you. In fact, our primary reason for writing our book, and for launching our GrownZone.com relationship education initiative, is to convince as many people as possible to not only support the Grown Zone, but to join our campaign for “More Self-Love, Better Decisions and Healthy Relationships.” You need to read and share our book, Loving In the Grown Zone. Following are just nine of the top reasons why we believe you’ll agree.
You want to take a stand for healthy love. Infidelity. Violence. Disrespect. Abuse. Possessiveness. Exploitation. Reckless procreation. These and so many unloving acts are tolerated and committed in the name of love. As a result, love needs both a defense attorney and an image consultant. In fact, no other virtue is more falsely accused. Read and share Loving In The Grown Zone if you want to defend and stand up for the truth about love.
You want to prevent unhappy marriages and high divorce rates. How many of us witness weddings and celebrate the rings, the hair, the dress, the music, and the food and drink at the reception—but cannot honestly celebrate the marriage? The fact that half of all marriages end in divorce is not evidence that the institution itself is flawed, but testament to the fact that a marriage is only as resilient as the foundation it is built on. If you want to promote the self-loving choices and healthy relationship standards that prevent unsustainable marriages and make good marriages last, read and share this book.
You want to help love to reclaim its true identity. Love may be the ultimate and original victim of identity theft, with sex, money, ego and self-indulgence among its perpetrators, thanks to popular culture (including much of “reality” TV), movies, music, peers and even preachers and parents. We founded Grown Zone and wrote Loving In The Grown Zone to make the case that true love is identified by its capacity to bring honor, esteem and respect to people in relationships; it is about joy, peace, compassion, forgiveness, patience, affirmation, restoration and safety. Love is always healthy and promotes personal growth and self-love. If it doesn’t, it may be many things, but it is not love. Read and share our book if you agree.
You are tired of dating and pursuing relationships by trial and error. Without a commitment to personal growth and self-love, and reliable guidelines for healthy relationship choices, people are left to gamble with their bodies, finances, emotional health and physical safety, treating the search for love like the lottery—with similarly horrible odds. One in a million may find healthy sustainable love this way; the rest will get the booby prizes, including fatherless sons, daddyless daughters, costly divorces, serial infidelity, financial abuse, domestic violence and other commonly accepted features of unhealthy relationships. Read and share this book if you want to change this paradigm for yourself and others.
This is not a book-sales campaign. It’s a mission. We want to make this perfectly clear: The Grown Zone is not just a cute branding platform. It’s not about getting Instagram reposts or pandering for followers with clever memes. We are not in a social media popularity contest. We are tired of stories that start out with “they fell in love” and end with “he/she cheated on/beat on/abused/killed him/her.” We reject the notion that abuse, disrespect and self-destructive choices should be tolerated by us as individuals or as a society as acceptable consequences of pursuing and engaging in romantic relationships. If you stand with us, read and share our book.