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Popular Relationship Advice You Must Challenge To Find Healthy Love, Part 2

In the Grown Zone, we often disagree with conventional wisdom when it comes to love and relationships. In this 3-part series of videos, we point to widely promoted and popularly accepted relationship advice, and why it's often overrated when it comes to choosing and maintaining healthy relationships. In Part 2 of this series, we address the following piece of broadly accepted relationship advice: Part 2: To find true love you need [...]

Popular Relationship Advice You Must Challenge To Find Healthy Love, Part 1

In the Grown Zone, we often disagree with conventional wisdom when it comes to love and relationships. In this 3-part series of videos, we point to widely promoted and popularly accepted relationship advice, and why it's often overrated when it comes to choosing and maintaining healthy relationships. We start with: Part 1: Communication is the key to healthy relationships. “Better communication” is the near-universal, go-to solution for relationship problems, with countless [...]

In The Quest for Love, Choose Good For You Over Good To You

Healthy, loving relationships are about how well you are treated, not just how you are made to feel.—Alfred Edmond Jr. This is one of the guiding principles of our book, Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect (Balboa Press). Authentic love is about the quality of treatment between relationship partners. However, too often, [...]

The Real Reason It’s So Hard to Find Love. (It’s Not What You Think.)

Our need for love is present from our time in the womb; our capacity for healthy growth and development (physical, mental and emotional) depends on it. We are born with both a predisposition to give and a longing to receive love, with our capacity to effectively do either relying on the other being fulfilled. So if we all have the capacity to love, and we all need love, why is [...]

Relationship Goals: What Good, Healthy Love Looks Like

Water is necessary to live. But not all water is safe to drink; in fact, if it is contaminated, it can be quite deadly. The same applies to relationships. To be Grown is to set higher standards for what healthy love and loving are—to accept not just anything that passes for love, but nothing less than Grown, healthy love, what we call Good Love. Helping people to stop chasing substitutes [...]

Why It Pays To Learn How To Love

You were born with both the need and the capacity to love, but you weren’t born knowing (and were likely never taught) how to create and grow healthy relationships. Your success, security and happiness depends on your willingness to invest time, attention, money and intention to learn. Here are three important reasons to boost your L.Q. (love quotient) by committing to relationship education: To protect your money, financial assets and earning power. [...]

Wedding Season In The Grown Zone: Alfred and Zara Are Married

“I’m going to marry you,” he said. “I’m going to let you,” she replied. On October 6, 2015, Alfred Adam Edmond Jr. and Zara Denise Green, already partners in business, life and love, fulfilled their intentions and became husband and wife. In a ceremony deliberately planned and executed as “a whisper,” the co-founders of the Grown Zone and co-authors of the book Loving In The Grown Zone exchanged vows and wedding bands. The wedding [...]

9 Reasons You Should Read This Book And Help Change The Conversation About What Healthy Love Is

Our new book, Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect (Balboa Press) has been available for a few months now, and even before any formal promotional effort, the response has been all but overwhelming, with incredible social media buzz and great reviews at Amazon.com and other online booksellers. Now that our official promotional [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Stop Chasing Money And Sex Hoping For Love

All too often women are chasing money and men are chasing sex (or vice versa), and when they find what they're chasing, because it's so good to them, they confuse it with love. In the Grown Zone we distinguish what you have the adult right to do—which too often leads us to ridiculous situations and destructive outcomes—and the grown decisions we must make to do what is most self-loving and advantageous to [...]