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Buy Love, Get Trouble: The “Sexploitation” of Kevin Hart

Something to consider: The latest celebrity "sexploitation" scandal, this time involving globally famous and highly paid actor/comedian Kevin Hart (and his pregnant current wife/alleged former mistress, and a current "side chick" who apparently attempted to use a sex tape to extort money from him), is just the latest illustration of how our decisions in pursuit of sex and relationships often result in major financial and business as well as emotional [...]

Learn The Early Signs of Danger When Meeting Someone New

A big part of our work in the Grown Zone is to help you to recognize and protect yourself from potentially dangerous relationships before they happen, as a better alternative to suffering through and recovering from them after the fact, and taking real risks and losses along the way. Check out this post from StreetSmartWomen.com, a company that markets discreet, wearable safety devices for women, on the ways potentially dangerous people [...]

How The “Love of Your Life” Can Be The Death of Your Business

There’s the owner of a popular restaurant who is struggling with cash flow issues. He’s behind on payments to his suppliers and has maxed out his line of credit. Is the problem rising food prices? A sudden loss of customers to the new eatery across the street? Expensive upgrades necessary to satisfy health inspectors? None of the above. The restauranteur has been draining cash from operations to finance a relationship [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: True Love—How To Use Science To Understand Love

In the Grown Zone (and, specifically, in our book Loving In The Grown Zone), we provide fundamental decision-making principles to those in pursuit of healthy relationships of H.E.R. (honor, esteem and respect), also referred to as “Good Love.” The equivalent of such sustainable, loving relationships is called “True Love” by renowned neurologist Fred Nour, M.D., the author of a challenging and insightful new book, True Love: How To Use Science [...]

The High Cost Of Marrying Recklessly

January is widely referred to as “Divorce Month” in legal circles. (That’s right: smack in the middle of the “Engagement Season” that runs from Thanksgiving through Valentine’s Day!) However, the odds of a marriage succeeding are determined long before divorce becomes a consideration, and indeed, even before marriage is even proposed in a relationship. That's why investing in marriage readiness via relationship education now can prevent the financial and emotional devastation [...]

Success Without The Mess: Say No To Suffering In Relationships

Professional success. But life is a mess. We see it every day, and it can be hard to watch. The high-ranking corporate executive whose self-esteem and financial resources are slowly, steadily being drained by one love interest after another. For some reason, each man she gets involved with becomes under/unemployed shortly after their relationship begins, leaving her as the primary source of income in the partnership. And invariably, each relationship ends upon [...]

Aren’t You Tired of Getting Screwed In Your Relationships?

Aren't you tired of getting screwed in your relationships? No, really. When are you going to admit (at least to yourself) that you don't know what you're doing? More importantly, when are you going to do something about it? If you're ready to make a change, this video is for you. ARE YOU A SUCCESSFUL, HIGH-ACHIEVING SINGLE STRUGGLING WITH YOUR “SINGLENESS”? CLICK HERE TO LEARN ABOUT SCHEDULING A 1-ON-1 HIGH-IMPACT COACHING CONVERSATION WITH [...]

4 Reasons We Are Convinced That We’re Unlovable

One of the key factors in your inability to find and maintain healthy relationships are the haunting beliefs, even if unspoken, that you are unworthy or undeserving of love. Once you adopt these beliefs (even if unconsciously), you sabotage your ability to prepare for, recognize, attract and engage in healthy relationships of honor, esteem and respect. It's important to understand how we often use facts as justification for adopting false and self-sabotaging beliefs. [...]

Is A Mindset of Limited Options Keeping You From The Relationship You Deserve?

To all my single sisters, question for you... Would you rather have a wealthy man who provides everything for you, ensures that you never want for anything, you travel regularly, and are able to pursue your dreams because he doesn't mind supporting them financially, but he admits and you are aware that he sleeps with other woman on occasion (with protection)? OR Would you rather be involved with a man [...]

Why Church-Based Premarital Counseling Does Not Prevent Divorce

The fact that you both love God does not automatically qualify you to love each other.—Grown Zone Relationship Education Co-Creator Alfred A. Edmond Jr. In the Grown Zone, we often challenge conventional wisdom, including overvalued and ineffective beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships. One of these beliefs is the idea that church-based premarital counseling alone can provide engaged couples with enough preparation to establish a healthy, sustainable marriage. RELATED: [...]