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Looking For Healthy Love? Stop Competing To Be Chosen

"I'll settle down when I find the right woman." That's BULLSHIT! A man stops going to smorgasbords because his appetite for "All you can eat" has changed, not because one of the dishes at the smorgasbord is all he wants to eat for the rest of his life! Being a relationship partner's No. 1 is a poor substitute for being his or her ONLY one. If you're still competing, he [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: The 5 Phases of Dating

Dating has only one purpose if your goal is to one day establish a healthy, sustainable, loving relationship of H.E.R. (Honor, Esteem and Respect): That is to learn the truth of who people are, in order to determine who is safe for intimate access to your body, money, heart and home; who is not; and most importantly, to recognize and avoid the latter before they can do damage to you [...]

7 More Things To Know Before You Open Your Legs, Checkbook, Heart or Home

In the Grown Zone, we constantly remind you to make access to your body (sex and powers of procreation), money (financial stability), home (personal safety) and heart (emotional security), the last things you give up to get a relationship or keep one going. Unfortunately, we are taught the opposite—to surrender one, more or all of these things to either prove our love or to secure love from others. This “conventional [...]

4 Grown Keys For Dealing With Family Drama

And you thought romantic relationships were tough. For most of us, the challenges of dating or dealing with drama from a lover pales in comparison to the overwhelming baggage and potential for conflict that comes with spending holidays with family. More Americans travel for Thanksgiving than for any other holiday. Year after year, some family members look forward to spending time together, while others dread the experience and are more [...]

Buy Love, Get Trouble: The “Sexploitation” of Kevin Hart

Something to consider: The latest celebrity "sexploitation" scandal, this time involving globally famous and highly paid actor/comedian Kevin Hart (and his pregnant current wife/alleged former mistress, and a current "side chick" who apparently attempted to use a sex tape to extort money from him), is just the latest illustration of how our decisions in pursuit of sex and relationships often result in major financial and business as well as emotional [...]

Learn The Early Signs of Danger When Meeting Someone New

A big part of our work in the Grown Zone is to help you to recognize and protect yourself from potentially dangerous relationships before they happen, as a better alternative to suffering through and recovering from them after the fact, and taking real risks and losses along the way. Check out this post from StreetSmartWomen.com, a company that markets discreet, wearable safety devices for women, on the ways potentially dangerous people [...]

How The “Love of Your Life” Can Be The Death of Your Business

There’s the owner of a popular restaurant who is struggling with cash flow issues. He’s behind on payments to his suppliers and has maxed out his line of credit. Is the problem rising food prices? A sudden loss of customers to the new eatery across the street? Expensive upgrades necessary to satisfy health inspectors? None of the above. The restauranteur has been draining cash from operations to finance a relationship [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: True Love—How To Use Science To Understand Love

In the Grown Zone (and, specifically, in our book Loving In The Grown Zone), we provide fundamental decision-making principles to those in pursuit of healthy relationships of H.E.R. (honor, esteem and respect), also referred to as “Good Love.” The equivalent of such sustainable, loving relationships is called “True Love” by renowned neurologist Fred Nour, M.D., the author of a challenging and insightful new book, True Love: How To Use Science [...]

The High Cost Of Marrying Recklessly

January is widely referred to as “Divorce Month” in legal circles. (That’s right: smack in the middle of the “Engagement Season” that runs from Thanksgiving through Valentine’s Day!) However, the odds of a marriage succeeding are determined long before divorce becomes a consideration, and indeed, even before marriage is even proposed in a relationship. That's why investing in marriage readiness via relationship education now can prevent the financial and emotional devastation [...]

Success Without The Mess: Say No To Suffering In Relationships

Professional success. But life is a mess. We see it every day, and it can be hard to watch. The high-ranking corporate executive whose self-esteem and financial resources are slowly, steadily being drained by one love interest after another. For some reason, each man she gets involved with becomes under/unemployed shortly after their relationship begins, leaving her as the primary source of income in the partnership. And invariably, each relationship ends upon [...]