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You Can’t Welcome Your Future If You Won’t Show Your Past the Door

Have you ever been at home with a plan that did not include anybody else, and then the door bell rings? …and rings…and whoever it is at the door just won’t let up off of the bell? “Ding-dong, ding-dong, ding-dong…” You hear the bell and you are trying with everything you’ve got to get “ready enough” to get to the door…”ding-dong, ding-DONG, DING-DONG…”  By now, you’re yelling…”ALRIGHT!” or “WHO IS [...]

I Wish You Knew Your Worth: An Open Letter to Women

Generally speaking, women don't know their worth. We've been fed so many conflicting (and often unhealthy) ideas, from so many different sources, about how we are to be, and what roles we should play. In addition, often by what's traditionally been our most trusted sources, we are instructed to expect less than we really deserve, and that there's a reward awaiting us for doing so. RELATED: Want Better From A [...]

Is Your Approach To Love Putting Your Finances In Danger?

Chances are, you are a nice, decent person who wants what most people do: a healthy, safe and loving relationship, with someone you can trust, who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. However, if your finances remain a wreck regardless of your relationship status, your approach to love may be the biggest threat to both your financial security and emotional stability. RELATED: 8 Money Moves You Should NEVER [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: Before I Forget

Imagine yourself lying sick, broken, weak and powerless. Who cares for you when money won’t fix it, sex is not possible and good looks are useless or gone? Who sits faithfully by your side? This is one of the defining questions we ask in our book Loving In the Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect, in [...]

Dying For Love: Scary Relationship Beliefs That Can Get You Killed, Part 3

Halloween is the occasion during which we celebrate our morbid fascination with darkness, fright, monsters and things that go bump in the night. Unfortunately, due to commonly accepted and unhealthy beliefs about love and relationships, the horrors can often become all too real. To avoid becoming a victim and to help protect those you care about, you don't want to miss our latest 3-part series of Grown Zone Videos, “Dying for Love: Scary [...]

6 Acts of Financial Abuse That Are Red Flags For Intimate Partner Violence

At the core of the mission of Grown Zone Relationship Education is not only helping you to recognize and establish healthy, loving relationships, but to recognize and avoid dangerous, unhealthy ones. Helping people to avoid relationships that lead to domestic abuse and intimate partner violence, in particular, is a key priority of the Grown Zone. Most people think of domestic or intimate partner violence in physical terms. However, there are other [...]

Reject the Dangerous Notion That Men Are Hunters And Women Are Their Prey

I am so tired of people pushing the whole "men are hunters" crap when it comes to relationships. It's just not true. Even worse, this widely promoted belief is unhealthy for both men and women. For my more religious brothers and sisters, please allow me to point out that Adam's original job assignment was gardener, not hunter. He was assigned stewardship of the garden (not the hunting grounds) of Eden. So [...]

Dying For Love: Scary Relationship Beliefs That Can Get You Killed, Part 2

Halloween is the occasion during which we celebrate our morbid fascination with darkness, fright, monsters and things that go bump in the night. Unfortunately, due to commonly accepted and unhealthy beliefs about love and relationships, the horrors can often become all too real. To avoid becoming a victim and to help protect those you care about, you don't want to miss our latest 3-part series of Grown Zone Videos, “Dying for Love: Scary [...]

Dying For Love: Scary Relationship Beliefs That Can Get You Killed, Part 1

Halloween is the occasion during which we celebrate our morbid fascination with darkness, fright, monsters and things that go bump in the night. Unfortunately, due to commonly accepted and unhealthy beliefs about love and relationships, the horrors can often become all too real. To avoid becoming a victim and to help protect those you care about, you don't want to miss our latest 3-part series of Grown Zone Videos, “Dying for Love: Scary [...]

Grown Advice for Young Aspiring Superstar Athletes

They may show signs of exceptional talent before they hit their teens. By eighth grade, they have a target on their back. By high school, they are walking, talking lottery tickets, with everyone from their parents, coaches, recruiters, agents, the boys in their crew, and of course women of all ages and backgrounds, looking to cash in, or at least to get a cut. Of course, we’re talking about the [...]