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Reject the Dangerous Notion That Men Are Hunters And Women Are Their Prey

I am so tired of people pushing the whole "men are hunters" crap when it comes to relationships. It's just not true. Even worse, this widely promoted belief is unhealthy for both men and women. For my more religious brothers and sisters, please allow me to point out that Adam's original job assignment was gardener, not hunter. He was assigned stewardship of the garden (not the hunting grounds) of Eden. So [...]

Dying For Love: Scary Relationship Beliefs That Can Get You Killed, Part 2

Halloween is the occasion during which we celebrate our morbid fascination with darkness, fright, monsters and things that go bump in the night. Unfortunately, due to commonly accepted and unhealthy beliefs about love and relationships, the horrors can often become all too real. To avoid becoming a victim and to help protect those you care about, you don't want to miss our latest 3-part series of Grown Zone Videos, “Dying for Love: Scary [...]

Dying For Love: Scary Relationship Beliefs That Can Get You Killed, Part 1

Halloween is the occasion during which we celebrate our morbid fascination with darkness, fright, monsters and things that go bump in the night. Unfortunately, due to commonly accepted and unhealthy beliefs about love and relationships, the horrors can often become all too real. To avoid becoming a victim and to help protect those you care about, you don't want to miss our latest 3-part series of Grown Zone Videos, “Dying for Love: Scary [...]

Grown Advice for Young Aspiring Superstar Athletes

They may show signs of exceptional talent before they hit their teens. By eighth grade, they have a target on their back. By high school, they are walking, talking lottery tickets, with everyone from their parents, coaches, recruiters, agents, the boys in their crew, and of course women of all ages and backgrounds, looking to cash in, or at least to get a cut. Of course, we’re talking about the [...]

Love Is Not An Addiction: If It’s Real, It’s Worth Waiting For

Do you know an addict—someone hooked on alcohol, cocaine, meth, heroin? If you’ve known anybody addicted to any of these mind altering drugs then you know that the longer they’re addicted the more bold and reckless they become about getting it. From the first hit, all they know is that nothing has ever made them feel like that before and they look forward to the next hit. After a few [...]

Why Love At First Sight Is Romantic Foolery

One of the most dangerous distractions in the quest for healthy, romantic relationships of honor, esteem and respect is the myth of “love at first sight.” A desert oasis and so-called love at first sight have at least two things in common: Both attract people who are desperate and dying of thirst (for water and love, respectively), and both nearly always turn out to be illusions. Also, in both cases, [...]

Fidelity Is A Decision Not Based On Persuasion

A real man gives up one-night stands for a woman he can’t stand to spend one night without. This sentiment is regularly shared via social media, and every time I see something like it I want to shake the women behind the posts. Women really need to think! Put your egos aside (yes, women are ego-driven, too) and THINK because women who believe this end up jockeying for men and [...]

Your Relationship Is Over. Now What?

Your relationship is over. Now what? Single life is about more than just killing time between relationships and searching for someone new to love you. It's about taking the following steps to learn, grow and love yourself: Reflect.  You must intentionally answer the question, “What just happened?” with a focus not on blaming or playing victim, but on exploring your choices, the emotions that drove them and your underlying beliefs. How do they compare to [...]

Do You Know What To Look For In Your Ideal Mate? Try This Simple Test

Have you had a difficult time finding someone with whom you can establish a great relationship that lasts beyond just a few months, before one or both of you have chosen to either break up or settle for being less than happy (rather than be alone)? If so, the challenge likely starts with why you chose to be together in the first place. Most of us were either taught to [...]

How Smart Business People Put Their Success At Risk In Relationships

In the Grown Zone we teach what it means to make healthy, Grown decisions (not merely the adult choices you have the right to make, whether or not they are to your advantage). This includes challenging self-destructive beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships, including marriages. Relationship education is key to protecting your business, career and finances. If your wealth, influence, visibility and status are on the rise, you are particularly vulnerable to making poor relationship choices. [...]