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Grown Zone Book Shelf: 4 Financial Languages

When pursuing sex, love and relationships, it is critical for you to learn to screen out relationship prospects who are unhealthy for you, and to effectively communicate with those who prove qualified to engage in healthy, intimate relationships. That includes financial intimacy. 4 Financial Languages: The Secrets to Communicating About Money by Tarra Jackson, is an excellent resource designed to help you do just that. Not only am I recommending [...]

Grown Love and Money: 7 Safety Checks Before Engaging In Financial Intimacy

Romance equals intimacy, and for many, that includes our finances. Examples of financial intimacy include signing on an apartment lease, opening joint bank or credit accounts, extending loans; paying bills or making other financial gifts; and sharing ATM pass words, bank account numbers and other financial information. We make some of our most damaging money decisions because we mistakenly think (with plenty of social endorsement from family, church and popular [...]

Buy Love, Get Trouble: The “Sexploitation” of Kevin Hart

Something to consider: The latest celebrity "sexploitation" scandal, this time involving globally famous and highly paid actor/comedian Kevin Hart (and his pregnant current wife/alleged former mistress, and a current "side chick" who apparently attempted to use a sex tape to extort money from him), is just the latest illustration of how our decisions in pursuit of sex and relationships often result in major financial and business as well as emotional [...]

How The “Love of Your Life” Can Be The Death of Your Business

There’s the owner of a popular restaurant who is struggling with cash flow issues. He’s behind on payments to his suppliers and has maxed out his line of credit. Is the problem rising food prices? A sudden loss of customers to the new eatery across the street? Expensive upgrades necessary to satisfy health inspectors? None of the above. The restauranteur has been draining cash from operations to finance a relationship [...]

My Story: The High Price of Foregoing Relationship Education

Would you invest, say, $10,000 on a program of relationship education to avoid more than $100,000 in expenses and other costs resulting from poor relationship choices? Today, that’s a no-brainer for me: Absolutely, I would. But that was not always the case. For most of my adult life, like most people, I was firmly committed to the follow-your-heart, learn-by-experience, anything-for-love approach to relationships. By my 40th birthday, the results of [...]

Is Your Approach To Love Putting Your Finances In Danger?

Chances are, you are a nice, decent person who wants what most people do: a healthy, safe and loving relationship, with someone you can trust, who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. However, if your finances remain a wreck regardless of your relationship status, your approach to love may be the biggest threat to both your financial security and emotional stability. RELATED: 8 Money Moves You Should NEVER [...]

6 Acts of Financial Abuse That Are Red Flags For Intimate Partner Violence

At the core of the mission of Grown Zone Relationship Education is not only helping you to recognize and establish healthy, loving relationships, but to recognize and avoid dangerous, unhealthy ones. Helping people to avoid relationships that lead to domestic abuse and intimate partner violence, in particular, is a key priority of the Grown Zone. Most people think of domestic or intimate partner violence in physical terms. However, there are other [...]

Grown Advice for Young Aspiring Superstar Athletes

They may show signs of exceptional talent before they hit their teens. By eighth grade, they have a target on their back. By high school, they are walking, talking lottery tickets, with everyone from their parents, coaches, recruiters, agents, the boys in their crew, and of course women of all ages and backgrounds, looking to cash in, or at least to get a cut. Of course, we’re talking about the [...]

How Smart Business People Put Their Success At Risk In Relationships

In the Grown Zone we teach what it means to make healthy, Grown decisions (not merely the adult choices you have the right to make, whether or not they are to your advantage). This includes challenging self-destructive beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships, including marriages. Relationship education is key to protecting your business, career and finances. If your wealth, influence, visibility and status are on the rise, you are particularly vulnerable to making poor relationship choices. [...]

4 Ways To Say “No” To Requests To Cosign

If you’ve read my articles, heard me on the radio or seen me on television as an expert on personal finance and entrepreneurship, you’ve heard me say over and over again that co-signing on a credit card, auto loan, or any other kind of debt is one of the worst money decisions you can make. Often, though, it’s not the request that’s hard to say no to, but the person [...]