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Success Without The Mess: Say No To Suffering In Relationships

Professional success. But life is a mess. We see it every day, and it can be hard to watch. The high-ranking corporate executive whose self-esteem and financial resources are slowly, steadily being drained by one love interest after another. For some reason, each man she gets involved with becomes under/unemployed shortly after their relationship begins, leaving her as the primary source of income in the partnership. And invariably, each relationship ends upon [...]

Aren’t You Tired of Getting Screwed In Your Relationships?

Aren't you tired of getting screwed in your relationships? No, really. When are you going to admit (at least to yourself) that you don't know what you're doing? More importantly, when are you going to do something about it? If you're ready to make a change, this video is for you. ARE YOU A SUCCESSFUL, HIGH-ACHIEVING SINGLE STRUGGLING WITH YOUR “SINGLENESS”? CLICK HERE TO LEARN ABOUT SCHEDULING A 1-ON-1 HIGH-IMPACT COACHING CONVERSATION WITH [...]

Why Church-Based Premarital Counseling Does Not Prevent Divorce

The fact that you both love God does not automatically qualify you to love each other.—Grown Zone Relationship Education Co-Creator Alfred A. Edmond Jr. In the Grown Zone, we often challenge conventional wisdom, including overvalued and ineffective beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships. One of these beliefs is the idea that church-based premarital counseling alone can provide engaged couples with enough preparation to establish a healthy, sustainable marriage. RELATED: [...]

My Story: The High Price of Foregoing Relationship Education

Would you invest, say, $10,000 on a program of relationship education to avoid more than $100,000 in expenses and other costs resulting from poor relationship choices? Today, that’s a no-brainer for me: Absolutely, I would. But that was not always the case. For most of my adult life, like most people, I was firmly committed to the follow-your-heart, learn-by-experience, anything-for-love approach to relationships. By my 40th birthday, the results of [...]

3 Signs That She’s Not A Grown Woman

She’s got curves for days, luxurious tresses down her back, and a fantastic wardrobe that says sexy fashionista at work, at the club, and even at church. Earning an advanced degree has led to a six-figure position at a major corporation; she earns additional income as a freelance model. She has perfect credit and six-pack abs. And parked in front of her condo is her current-model luxury car, with a [...]

3 Signs That He Is Not A Grown Man

A significant proportion of unhealthy relationships are the result of the failure to differentiate between a man, who is merely an adult male, and a Grown man. Sadly, too many men were never taught how to be Grown (or worse, had role models who taught them anything but Grown manhood), and too many women don’t know one when they see or meet one—or are too willing to settle for less, [...]

3 Acts Of Holiday Season Foolery You Need To Avoid

Most adult-and-messy choices are a result of making decisions for a reason or a season that result in unintended lifetime consequences. This truth is even more evident during the holiday season, when we make exceptions for unhealthy relationship choices and poor treatment that we’d never tolerate during the rest of the year. The result: unhealthy, holiday foolery, the kind you need to fortify yourself against in order to enjoy the [...]

Dying For Love: Scary Relationship Beliefs That Can Get You Killed, Part 3

Halloween is the occasion during which we celebrate our morbid fascination with darkness, fright, monsters and things that go bump in the night. Unfortunately, due to commonly accepted and unhealthy beliefs about love and relationships, the horrors can often become all too real. To avoid becoming a victim and to help protect those you care about, you don't want to miss our latest 3-part series of Grown Zone Videos, “Dying for Love: Scary [...]

6 Acts of Financial Abuse That Are Red Flags For Intimate Partner Violence

At the core of the mission of Grown Zone Relationship Education is not only helping you to recognize and establish healthy, loving relationships, but to recognize and avoid dangerous, unhealthy ones. Helping people to avoid relationships that lead to domestic abuse and intimate partner violence, in particular, is a key priority of the Grown Zone. Most people think of domestic or intimate partner violence in physical terms. However, there are other [...]

Reject the Dangerous Notion That Men Are Hunters And Women Are Their Prey

I am so tired of people pushing the whole "men are hunters" crap when it comes to relationships. It's just not true. Even worse, this widely promoted belief is unhealthy for both men and women. For my more religious brothers and sisters, please allow me to point out that Adam's original job assignment was gardener, not hunter. He was assigned stewardship of the garden (not the hunting grounds) of Eden. So [...]