Avoiding Unhealthy Relationships

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Want Better From A Man? Then Change Your Qualifiers

Ask any man about his standards for “The One” and most of the time his list will be exhaustive! Go ahead! You can find a guy at the bus stop—boarding on borrowed money, with pants hanging off his ass, all grilled and tatted up, sneakers on his feet costing more than he’s actually earned in the past year, no education nor prospects for employment—and he’ll believe that he’s worthy of somebody [...]

Wedding Season: What We’ve Learned From 4 Failed Marriages

As widely recognized and trusted sources of advice on healthy relationships, and the authors of Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem, and Respect (Balboa Press), people are often surprised to find that we are not married, although we are committed to each other as life partners. (Radio Host Tom Joyner and Comedian J. Anthony [...]

9 Reasons You Should Read This Book And Help Change The Conversation About What Healthy Love Is

Our new book, Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect (Balboa Press) has been available for a few months now, and even before any formal promotional effort, the response has been all but overwhelming, with incredible social media buzz and great reviews at Amazon.com and other online booksellers. Now that our official promotional [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Half A Man Is Not Enough

Let's get this straight: women do need men, just as men need women, but the notion that a "half a man" is better than no man is foolery! RELATED POST: Want Better From A Man? Then Change Your Qualifiers Stop telling yourself that you don't need a man and then settlling for half a man. Men, stop bragging that you're "half man, half amazing," when only a whole man will [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Stop Chasing Money And Sex Hoping For Love

All too often women are chasing money and men are chasing sex (or vice versa), and when they find what they're chasing, because it's so good to them, they confuse it with love. In the Grown Zone we distinguish what you have the adult right to do—which too often leads us to ridiculous situations and destructive outcomes—and the grown decisions we must make to do what is most self-loving and advantageous to [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Low Down Dirty Lies About Sex and Love

"I'll change for you." "If you were handling your business he wouldn't be with me." "She don't mean nothing to me; you're the one I love." These are among the many lies we tell each other (and worse, tell ourselves), about sex and love that lead to destructive patterns of decision-making in relationships. Tune in to this edition of our Grown Zone Radio podcast to hear us challenge the lies and debunk [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Don’t Be A Slave To Your Passion

Passion and a healthy sex drive are natural gifts of adulthood, but to be Grown (not merely adult) is to know that they are not justification for poor decision making in life and relationships. As adults we are free to share our bodies with whomever we want. However, as Grown people, we need to be more careful about who we allow to share such intimate access, as an act of healthy self [...]