Avoiding Unhealthy Relationships

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4 Things We Are Told To Give Up For Love—And Why You Absolutely Shouldn’t

A theme you will hear repeatedly in our Grown Zone posts, on Grown Zone Radio and in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, is the importance of making your heart, body, money and home the last things you grant access to in a romantic (or any) relationship, not the first. You’ll do a much better job of making healthy, self-loving decisions—and avoid or quickly recover from unhealthy choices—if you [...]

Why It Pays To Learn How To Love

You were born with both the need and the capacity to love, but you weren’t born knowing (and were likely never taught) how to create and grow healthy relationships. Your success, security and happiness depends on your willingness to invest time, attention, money and intention to learn. Here are three important reasons to boost your L.Q. (love quotient) by committing to relationship education: To protect your money, financial assets and earning power. [...]

Drama Queens Have Nothing On Drama Kings. Recognize And Avoid Them!

Do not buy into the myth that choosing drama is a female thing. Drama queens ain’t got nothing on drama kings. Like drama queens, drama kings inspire strong emotions, which can initially pass as intoxicating passion and sexual chemistry (what some describe as “catching feelings”), but ultimately spirals into an endless cycle of recklessness and disruption, leaving nothing but destruction in its wake. Both drama kings and drama queens use [...]

Want Better From A Man? Then Change Your Qualifiers

Ask any man about his standards for “The One” and most of the time his list will be exhaustive! Go ahead! You can find a guy at the bus stop—boarding on borrowed money, with pants hanging off his ass, all grilled and tatted up, sneakers on his feet costing more than he’s actually earned in the past year, no education nor prospects for employment—and he’ll believe that he’s worthy of somebody [...]

Wedding Season: What We’ve Learned From 4 Failed Marriages

As widely recognized and trusted sources of advice on healthy relationships, and the authors of Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem, and Respect (Balboa Press), people are often surprised to find that we are not married, although we are committed to each other as life partners. (Radio Host Tom Joyner and Comedian J. Anthony [...]

9 Reasons You Should Read This Book And Help Change The Conversation About What Healthy Love Is

Our new book, Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect (Balboa Press) has been available for a few months now, and even before any formal promotional effort, the response has been all but overwhelming, with incredible social media buzz and great reviews at Amazon.com and other online booksellers. Now that our official promotional [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Half A Man Is Not Enough

Let's get this straight: women do need men, just as men need women, but the notion that a "half a man" is better than no man is foolery! RELATED POST: Want Better From A Man? Then Change Your Qualifiers Stop telling yourself that you don't need a man and then settlling for half a man. Men, stop bragging that you're "half man, half amazing," when only a whole man will [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Stop Chasing Money And Sex Hoping For Love

All too often women are chasing money and men are chasing sex (or vice versa), and when they find what they're chasing, because it's so good to them, they confuse it with love. In the Grown Zone we distinguish what you have the adult right to do—which too often leads us to ridiculous situations and destructive outcomes—and the grown decisions we must make to do what is most self-loving and advantageous to [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Low Down Dirty Lies About Sex and Love

"I'll change for you." "If you were handling your business he wouldn't be with me." "She don't mean nothing to me; you're the one I love." These are among the many lies we tell each other (and worse, tell ourselves), about sex and love that lead to destructive patterns of decision-making in relationships. Tune in to this edition of our Grown Zone Radio podcast to hear us challenge the lies and debunk [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Don’t Be A Slave To Your Passion

Passion and a healthy sex drive are natural gifts of adulthood, but to be Grown (not merely adult) is to know that they are not justification for poor decision making in life and relationships. As adults we are free to share our bodies with whomever we want. However, as Grown people, we need to be more careful about who we allow to share such intimate access, as an act of healthy self [...]