Preparing For Healthy Love

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Grown Zone Book Shelf: True Love—How To Use Science To Understand Love

In the Grown Zone (and, specifically, in our book Loving In The Grown Zone), we provide fundamental decision-making principles to those in pursuit of healthy relationships of H.E.R. (honor, esteem and respect), also referred to as “Good Love.” The equivalent of such sustainable, loving relationships is called “True Love” by renowned neurologist Fred Nour, M.D., the author of a challenging and insightful new book, True Love: How To Use Science [...]

The High Cost Of Marrying Recklessly

January is widely referred to as “Divorce Month” in legal circles. (That’s right: smack in the middle of the “Engagement Season” that runs from Thanksgiving through Valentine’s Day!) However, the odds of a marriage succeeding are determined long before divorce becomes a consideration, and indeed, even before marriage is even proposed in a relationship. That's why investing in marriage readiness via relationship education now can prevent the financial and emotional devastation [...]

Success Without The Mess: Say No To Suffering In Relationships

Professional success. But life is a mess. We see it every day, and it can be hard to watch. The high-ranking corporate executive whose self-esteem and financial resources are slowly, steadily being drained by one love interest after another. For some reason, each man she gets involved with becomes under/unemployed shortly after their relationship begins, leaving her as the primary source of income in the partnership. And invariably, each relationship ends upon [...]

4 Reasons We Are Convinced That We’re Unlovable

One of the key factors in your inability to find and maintain healthy relationships are the haunting beliefs, even if unspoken, that you are unworthy or undeserving of love. Once you adopt these beliefs (even if unconsciously), you sabotage your ability to prepare for, recognize, attract and engage in healthy relationships of honor, esteem and respect. It's important to understand how we often use facts as justification for adopting false and self-sabotaging beliefs. [...]

Is A Mindset of Limited Options Keeping You From The Relationship You Deserve?

To all my single sisters, question for you... Would you rather have a wealthy man who provides everything for you, ensures that you never want for anything, you travel regularly, and are able to pursue your dreams because he doesn't mind supporting them financially, but he admits and you are aware that he sleeps with other woman on occasion (with protection)? OR Would you rather be involved with a man [...]

Why Church-Based Premarital Counseling Does Not Prevent Divorce

The fact that you both love God does not automatically qualify you to love each other.—Grown Zone Relationship Education Co-Creator Alfred A. Edmond Jr. In the Grown Zone, we often challenge conventional wisdom, including overvalued and ineffective beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships. One of these beliefs is the idea that church-based premarital counseling alone can provide engaged couples with enough preparation to establish a healthy, sustainable marriage. RELATED: [...]

My Story: The High Price of Foregoing Relationship Education

Would you invest, say, $10,000 on a program of relationship education to avoid more than $100,000 in expenses and other costs resulting from poor relationship choices? Today, that’s a no-brainer for me: Absolutely, I would. But that was not always the case. For most of my adult life, like most people, I was firmly committed to the follow-your-heart, learn-by-experience, anything-for-love approach to relationships. By my 40th birthday, the results of [...]

Intention: The Key To Success In Life, Love And Relationships

How do you get what you want in life, love and relationships? Well, here’s what does not work: merely wishing for, wanting, needing and/or deserving it. You can’t succeed without intention. When people share access to the same information, resources, opportunities and experiences, yet do not get the same results, intention is the difference. Intention has nothing to do with what you wish for, hope for or what you say is important to you. [...]

Would You Let A 5-Year-Old Drive? Too Many People Do

I want to share an encounter with you, and through it, hopefully, you’ll be able to have an inner-child revelation of your own and stop letting him/her drive your life! I met an absolutely gorgeous, educated, delightful lady recently at the DMV who rejected every compliment I gave her. After our encounter (which lasted over an hour) and before we parted ways with tears in her eyes, she said, “I [...]

You Can’t Welcome Your Future If You Won’t Show Your Past the Door

Have you ever been at home with a plan that did not include anybody else, and then the door bell rings? …and rings…and whoever it is at the door just won’t let up off of the bell? “Ding-dong, ding-dong, ding-dong…” You hear the bell and you are trying with everything you’ve got to get “ready enough” to get to the door…”ding-dong, ding-DONG, DING-DONG…”  By now, you’re yelling…”ALRIGHT!” or “WHO IS [...]