Preparing For Healthy Love

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In The Quest for Love, Choose Good For You Over Good To You

Healthy, loving relationships are about how well you are treated, not just how you are made to feel.—Alfred Edmond Jr. This is one of the guiding principles of our book, Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect (Balboa Press). Authentic love is about the quality of treatment between relationship partners. However, too often, [...]

Grown Love And Money: Financial Planning Comes Before Wedding Planning

I am really bothered by the results of a recent poll of engaged couples on the website of the National Foundation for Credit Counseling. The poll reveals that 68 percent of respondents held negative attitudes toward discussing money with their fiance. Five percent indicated that talking about money with their fiance would cause them to call off the wedding. Well, guess what? If you can’t talk about your finances with [...]

Possession Consciousness Is Dangerous With Things And People

Are you setting yourself up for unnecessary heartbreak? Or allowing others to position you for unnecessary drama? Possession consciousness starts out quite innocently… “My Clothes – My Shoes – My Jewelry – My House  – My Car” But then there’s this level of possessiveness… “My Father – My Mother My Son – My Daughter My Man – My Woman” UH-OH! People Possession! (More on that a little later…) For the [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: Why You’re Not Married… Yet

In the Grown Zone, we constantly stress that more time and energy should be invested in recognizing and building healthy relationships, after laying a solid foundation of self-love, instead of surrendering to our societal obsession with weddings. Unfortunately, most people, and women in particular, are taught to focus on wedding planning ahead of marriage planning, with the latter deferred until sometime after the honeymoon, if it happens at all. Marriage [...]

Speaking Grown Zone: A Glossary of Terms

Whether you are a long-time citizen of the Grown Zone Nation or you are new to the Grown Zone, it helps to speak the language of Grown and healthy personal growth spoken here. Following are the definitions of terms commonly used in the Grown Zone, including on our weekly radio show, in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, on social media (including our private Facebook group) and at our [...]

15 Things Grown People Believe That Mere Adults Don’t

We’re "Do-Better Fanatics," committed to the purpose of relationship education. Our mission here in the Grown Zone is to help you grow from adult choices to Grown Decisions. When you decide that you want to make better choices, engage in more self-love, and have healthy relationships, you are ready to enter the Grown Zone. In the Grown Zone, we recognize and honor the truth that not everything that we have [...]

Beyond Adulthood: 9 Keys To Living With A Grown Agenda

In the Grown Zone, we differentiate between being an adult, and being “Grown.” We recognize that most people view these terms as synonymous, but there is a significant difference between the two. All it takes to become an adult is to survive puberty; it is simply a matter of biological maturation—from infant, to toddler, to child, to tween, to teen, and then, adult. However, it is a mistake to view [...]

4 Things We Are Told To Give Up For Love—And Why You Absolutely Shouldn’t

A theme you will hear repeatedly in our Grown Zone posts, on Grown Zone Radio and in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, is the importance of making your heart, body, money and home the last things you grant access to in a romantic (or any) relationship, not the first. You’ll do a much better job of making healthy, self-loving decisions—and avoid or quickly recover from unhealthy choices—if you [...]

Why It Pays To Learn How To Love

You were born with both the need and the capacity to love, but you weren’t born knowing (and were likely never taught) how to create and grow healthy relationships. Your success, security and happiness depends on your willingness to invest time, attention, money and intention to learn. Here are three important reasons to boost your L.Q. (love quotient) by committing to relationship education: To protect your money, financial assets and earning power. [...]

Grown Zone Speaks With Essence About Creating An Argument-Proof Marriage

Earlier this year, Grown Zone co-founders Zara D. Green and Alfred A. Edmond Jr. were interviewed by Essence.com Relationships Editor and Marriage Blogger Charli Penn about dealing with arguments and confrontation in relationships, and specifically marriages. Penn’s article from that interview, “Your Relationship Protection Plan,” was published in the October 2015 issue of Essence magazine. What follows here is our full interview with Penn. ESSENCE: What are some tips for [...]