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Lela Rochon and Antoine Fuqua: Weight Gain Does Not Cause Infidelity And Weight Loss Can’t Prevent It

During an interview for a radio show, I was asked about the Antoine Fuqua/Lela Rochon/Nicole Murphy situation, and specifically about the idea that actor Rochon’s weight gain created the opportunity/justification for infidelity. Movie director Fuqua [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: Breaking Bonds, How To Divorce An Abuser and Heal

Without a clearly defined guide to decision making in pursuit of healthy romantic relationships (such as that provided by our book Loving In The Grown Zone), it is surprisingly easy to end up in a [...]

Why Are The Most Loving People Treated So Poorly In Relationships?

You attract what you are. This frequently shared piece of life and relationship advice is often difficult for people who repeatedly experience mistreatment in relationships to buy into. Based on their experiences, they have come [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: The C-Word, Celibacy, My 28-Year Journey

A Grown woman is a healthy, whole, and content person, who chooses life alone over anything less than loving, loyal and respectful treatment in a relationship with another person. She sets a high standard based [...]

Looking For Healthy Love? Stop Competing To Be Chosen

"I'll settle down when I find the right woman." That's BULLSHIT! A man stops going to smorgasbords because his appetite for "All you can eat" has changed, not because one of the dishes at the [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: The 5 Phases of Dating

Dating has only one purpose if your goal is to one day establish a healthy, sustainable, loving relationship of H.E.R. (Honor, Esteem and Respect): That is to learn the truth of who people are, in [...]