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My Valentines Day Prayer: A Higher Love

It’s Valentines Day—on a Friday of a long holiday weekend, no less—and my feed is overflowing with pictures of happy, beautiful couples celebrating love. Some even seem to be professionally styled, bringing a magical, ideal [...]

A Grown Man Treats All Women With Respect, Not Just His Mother

How many times have you heard someone (including many dating and relationship experts) say a variation of: “To find a good man, look for someone who is good to his mother?” Unfortunately, just because a [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: 4 Financial Languages

When pursuing sex, love and relationships, it is critical for you to learn to screen out relationship prospects who are unhealthy for you, and to effectively communicate with those who prove qualified to engage in [...]

Grown Love and Money: 7 Safety Checks Before Engaging In Financial Intimacy

Romance equals intimacy, and for many, that includes our finances. Examples of financial intimacy include signing on an apartment lease, opening joint bank or credit accounts, extending loans; paying bills or making other financial gifts; [...]

Lela Rochon and Antoine Fuqua: Weight Gain Does Not Cause Infidelity And Weight Loss Can’t Prevent It

During an interview for a radio show, I was asked about the Antoine Fuqua/Lela Rochon/Nicole Murphy situation, and specifically about the idea that actor Rochon’s weight gain created the opportunity/justification for infidelity. Movie director Fuqua [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: Breaking Bonds, How To Divorce An Abuser and Heal

Without a clearly defined guide to decision making in pursuit of healthy romantic relationships (such as that provided by our book Loving In The Grown Zone), it is surprisingly easy to end up in a [...]