No acceptable level of violenceAnyone who follows the Grown Zone knows that true-crime reality TV is a major part of our media diet. This is because it so graphically illustrates the risks one takes when prematurely surrendering access to body, money, home and heart. Series such as Snapped (on the Oxygen network), Who The Bleep Did I Marry (Investigation Discovery) and Fatal Attraction (TV One) show how common it is for people to pay for poor relationship choices with their money, emotional health, physical safety and, too often, their very lives.

That’s why the relationship education we provide in the Grown Zone is about far more than mending broken hearts, improving sex lives and helping the lonely find true love; it’s a matter of life (and certainly the quality of it) and death. However, you won’t get the important lessons of these shows unless you learn to see past the often misleading narration to evaluate the decisions made by their subjects, using the healthy relationship principles we teach in the Grown Zone as a guide. To show what we mean, here’s how to watch Fatal Attraction as if your life depended on it (because if you don’t get the lessons, it very well may).

The story: It was true love from the very start. She was bright and beautiful, with a promising career; he was tall, dark and handsome, and good with children. They were a perfect match, made for each other. They had the kind of relationship that everyone dreams of.

The reality: Based on good sex, good looks, good religion, good money and other common relationship attractors, the partners in the relationship immediately and prematurely give easy access to body, money, heart and home, even though they are practically strangers, mere acquaintances who don’t know the truth about each other beyond their initial attraction.

As you follow the story, note how quickly (often within days, and even hours) access to body, money, home and heart are surrendered, and nearly always before any of the things you should know before allowing such access are discovered and verified. This poor decision-making leads to:

The story: The God-fearing single mother/hard-working family man/honor student with a bright future suffers a mysterious, usually brutal and violent death, for no apparent reason.

The reality: Here’s where the secrets are revealed—painstakingly of course, in order to exaggerate the suspense and mystery of the story: The church-going single mother is still having sex with her ex, a possessive and violent drug dealer and hardened criminal who has murdered before. The hard-working family man is actually a serial partner/domestic abuser with frightening control issues. (He’s also been molesting his step-daughter). The honor student with a promising future is an emotionally unstable and insanely possessive person with low self-esteem and a history of serial infidelity and deliberately provoking jealous anger in her lovers in order to feel sexy and desirable.

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