Chances are, you are a nice, decent person who wants what most people do: a healthy, safe and loving relationship, with someone you can trust, who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. However, if your finances remain a wreck regardless of your relationship status, your approach to love may be the biggest threat to both your financial security and emotional stability.
Your decisions, choices and habits, both with your finances and in your relationships, are the fruit of your emotions, which spring from the seed of your beliefs. You are likely to make horrible financial choices when you believe:
You are in love with love.
This belief is rooted in the romantic foolery of “anything for love,” justifying financial choices that would be unthinkable to you outside of the desire to get or keep a relationship. Genuine, healthy, Grown love never requires you to damage yourself (including financially). To believe otherwise is to be a volunteer victim.
You equate loving people with rescuing them.