A big part of our work in the Grown Zone is to help you to recognize and protect yourself from potentially dangerous relationships before they happen, as a better alternative to suffering through and recovering from them after the fact, and taking real risks and losses along the way.
Check out this post from StreetSmartWomen.com, a company that markets discreet, wearable safety devices for women, on the ways potentially dangerous people use charm, niceness (one of the attractors we identify in our book Loving In The Grown Zone) and helpfulness to get you to lower your defenses and trust prematurely.
By the way, while the article approaches this from the perspective of men who are dangerous to women, I know from both observation and personal experience that the same applies to men who need to recognize early on when they meet potentially predatory women.
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