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6 Signs Your Sweetheart Is Using Love to Get Control of Your Money

First date in July. Madly in love by August. Engaged by October. Married the following May. Is it true love? Or one person’s misguided, desperate, obsessive or even criminal attempt to use “love” to gain access to and control of another person’s financial resources? All you have to do is watch true-crime stories dramatized on TV shows such as Fatal Attraction, Fatal Vows and Who The (Bleep) Did I Marry? to [...]

Grown Love And Money: Before You Marry, Do The Math

Marriage is a financial and legal contract, not just a spiritual, romantic and/or emotional commitment. This is a foundational theme of living and loving in the Grown Zone, but also a fact that is too often glossed over in our society’s all but obsessive fascination with love, weddings and babies—whether we are actually prepared for them or not. As we often point out in the Grown Zone, marriage, in particular, [...]

Life (And Purpose) Reimagined: My Journey From Black Enterprise to The Grown Zone

At my office at Black Enterprise being interviewed by Ramon Ray for Smart Hustle Magazine. I’m blessed to be in my 30th year as a business and financial journalist, editor and media executive, experienced in print, TV, radio, online and social media content platforms. I also have more than 20 years experience as a business plan and elevator pitch competition judge, and an advisor/mentor to entrepreneurs and new [...]

Love and Money: Stop Giving Them To Strangers and Dependents, Part 2

Too many people pay dearly, both emotionally and financially because they insist on treating love as a form of currency, like the yen or Euro, with an exchange rate convertible to U.S. dollars. We share examples of this in Love and Money: Stop Giving Them To Strangers, Part 1. To graduate from exercising your adult right to engage in financial and romantic foolery, to making Grown decisions as relates to love [...]

Love and Money: Stop Giving Them to Strangers and Dependents, Part 1

Adults are messy enough when it comes to love, sex and relationships. But for real rachetness and foolery, add money to the mix. Too many people pay dearly both emotionally and financially because they insist on treating love as a form of currency, like the yen or Euro, with an exchange rate convertible to U.S. dollars. For examples of the relationship disasters that result, just look at television court shows [...]

8 Money Moves You Should NEVER Make for Love

The classic hit song by music icon Tina Turner asks, “What’s love got to do with it?” However, when it comes to avoiding unhealthy relationships and establishing standards for healthy ones of honor, esteem and respect, it may be more important to ask: What does my money have to do with it? A casual survey of any television court shows, such as Judge Judy and Judge Faith, will provide plenty [...]

6 Things To Know Before You Open Your Legs, Checkbook, Heart or Home

In the Grown Zone, we constantly urge you to make access to your body (sex and powers of procreation), money (financial stability), home (personal safety) and heart (emotional security), the last things you give up to get a relationship or keep one going. Unfortunately, we are taught the opposite—to surrender one, more or all of these things to either prove our love, or to secure commitment from others. This “conventional [...]

4 Things We Are Told To Give Up For Love—And Why You Absolutely Shouldn’t

A theme you will hear repeatedly in our Grown Zone posts, on Grown Zone Radio and in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, is the importance of making your heart, body, money and home the last things you grant access to in a romantic (or any) relationship, not the first. You’ll do a much better job of making healthy, self-loving decisions—and avoid or quickly recover from unhealthy choices—if you [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Say NO to Financial Foolery

Allowing emotions to drive poor financial decisions is not Grown. Chances are, you are a nice, decent person who wants what most people do: a healthy, safe and loving relationship, with someone you can trust, who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. However, if your finances remain a wreck regardless of your relationship status, your approach to love may be the biggest threat to both your financial security and [...]