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Success Without The Mess: Say No To Suffering In Relationships

Professional success. But life is a mess. We see it every day, and it can be hard to watch. The high-ranking corporate executive whose self-esteem and financial resources are slowly, steadily being drained by one love interest after another. For some reason, each man she gets involved with becomes under/unemployed shortly after their relationship begins, leaving her as the primary source of income in the partnership. And invariably, each relationship ends upon [...]

Is A Mindset of Limited Options Keeping You From The Relationship You Deserve?

To all my single sisters, question for you... Would you rather have a wealthy man who provides everything for you, ensures that you never want for anything, you travel regularly, and are able to pursue your dreams because he doesn't mind supporting them financially, but he admits and you are aware that he sleeps with other woman on occasion (with protection)? OR Would you rather be involved with a man [...]

Why Church-Based Premarital Counseling Does Not Prevent Divorce

The fact that you both love God does not automatically qualify you to love each other.—Grown Zone Relationship Education Co-Creator Alfred A. Edmond Jr. In the Grown Zone, we often challenge conventional wisdom, including overvalued and ineffective beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships. One of these beliefs is the idea that church-based premarital counseling alone can provide engaged couples with enough preparation to establish a healthy, sustainable marriage. RELATED: [...]

Esteemable Goals: Making New Year’s Resolutions That Matter to You

Each New Year, people commit (or recommit) to wishes, dreams and desires for their lives, also known as resolutions. Unfortunately, breaking resolutions is as much a tradition as making them. However, making and breaking promises, especially to yourself, is not Grown, because it is unhealthy; it diminishes your love and esteem for self. Your capacity to make and keep healthy commitments to yourself is a major sign of being truly [...]

Get Better At Severing Ties: Amicable Breakups

I wish people understood the power in severing ties when they’re no longer aligned with the people in their lives.  People-possession is dangerous. There are a gazillion people on the planet and there’s nobody—not a single person—who you can’t happily live without. RELATED: Your Relationship Is Over. Now What? Having ended many relationships (romantic, business, with friends, and yes, even with relatives) upon realizing that continuing as we were was not [...]

3 Acts Of Holiday Season Foolery You Need To Avoid

Most adult-and-messy choices are a result of making decisions for a reason or a season that result in unintended lifetime consequences. This truth is even more evident during the holiday season, when we make exceptions for unhealthy relationship choices and poor treatment that we’d never tolerate during the rest of the year. The result: unhealthy, holiday foolery, the kind you need to fortify yourself against in order to enjoy the [...]

You Can’t Welcome Your Future If You Won’t Show Your Past the Door

Have you ever been at home with a plan that did not include anybody else, and then the door bell rings? …and rings…and whoever it is at the door just won’t let up off of the bell? “Ding-dong, ding-dong, ding-dong…” You hear the bell and you are trying with everything you’ve got to get “ready enough” to get to the door…”ding-dong, ding-DONG, DING-DONG…”  By now, you’re yelling…”ALRIGHT!” or “WHO IS [...]

Grown Advice for Young Aspiring Superstar Athletes

They may show signs of exceptional talent before they hit their teens. By eighth grade, they have a target on their back. By high school, they are walking, talking lottery tickets, with everyone from their parents, coaches, recruiters, agents, the boys in their crew, and of course women of all ages and backgrounds, looking to cash in, or at least to get a cut. Of course, we’re talking about the [...]

Fidelity Is A Decision Not Based On Persuasion

A real man gives up one-night stands for a woman he can’t stand to spend one night without. This sentiment is regularly shared via social media, and every time I see something like it I want to shake the women behind the posts. Women really need to think! Put your egos aside (yes, women are ego-driven, too) and THINK because women who believe this end up jockeying for men and [...]

How Smart Business People Put Their Success At Risk In Relationships

In the Grown Zone we teach what it means to make healthy, Grown decisions (not merely the adult choices you have the right to make, whether or not they are to your advantage). This includes challenging self-destructive beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships, including marriages. Relationship education is key to protecting your business, career and finances. If your wealth, influence, visibility and status are on the rise, you are particularly vulnerable to making poor relationship choices. [...]