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Grown Love And Money: Financial Planning Comes Before Wedding Planning

I am really bothered by the results of a recent poll of engaged couples on the website of the National Foundation for Credit Counseling. The poll reveals that 68 percent of respondents held negative attitudes toward discussing money with their fiance. Five percent indicated that talking about money with their fiance would cause them to call off the wedding. Well, guess what? If you can’t talk about your finances with [...]

3 Deadly Money Habits That Kill Relationships

That money is the single biggest common factor of many failed relationships, including most divorces, is a widely accepted belief, backed up by plenty of evidence, both empirical and anecdotal. What is less commonly discussed is that while money may be a dominant factor in unhealthy relationships, it is often not the cause, but a symptom and reflection of deeper rifts in the foundation of relationships. This is why, in [...]

Love and Money: Stop Giving Them To Strangers and Dependents, Part 2

Too many people pay dearly, both emotionally and financially because they insist on treating love as a form of currency, like the yen or Euro, with an exchange rate convertible to U.S. dollars. We share examples of this in Love and Money: Stop Giving Them To Strangers, Part 1. To graduate from exercising your adult right to engage in financial and romantic foolery, to making Grown decisions as relates to love [...]

Love and Money: Stop Giving Them to Strangers and Dependents, Part 1

Adults are messy enough when it comes to love, sex and relationships. But for real rachetness and foolery, add money to the mix. Too many people pay dearly both emotionally and financially because they insist on treating love as a form of currency, like the yen or Euro, with an exchange rate convertible to U.S. dollars. For examples of the relationship disasters that result, just look at television court shows [...]

8 Money Moves You Should NEVER Make for Love

The classic hit song by music icon Tina Turner asks, “What’s love got to do with it?” However, when it comes to avoiding unhealthy relationships and establishing standards for healthy ones of honor, esteem and respect, it may be more important to ask: What does my money have to do with it? A casual survey of any television court shows, such as Judge Judy and Judge Faith, will provide plenty [...]

6 Things To Know Before You Open Your Legs, Checkbook, Heart or Home

In the Grown Zone, we constantly urge you to make access to your body (sex and powers of procreation), money (financial stability), home (personal safety) and heart (emotional security), the last things you give up to get a relationship or keep one going. Unfortunately, we are taught the opposite—to surrender one, more or all of these things to either prove our love, or to secure commitment from others. This “conventional [...]

4 Things We Are Told To Give Up For Love—And Why You Absolutely Shouldn’t

A theme you will hear repeatedly in our Grown Zone posts, on Grown Zone Radio and in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, is the importance of making your heart, body, money and home the last things you grant access to in a romantic (or any) relationship, not the first. You’ll do a much better job of making healthy, self-loving decisions—and avoid or quickly recover from unhealthy choices—if you [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Stop Chasing Money And Sex Hoping For Love

All too often women are chasing money and men are chasing sex (or vice versa), and when they find what they're chasing, because it's so good to them, they confuse it with love. In the Grown Zone we distinguish what you have the adult right to do—which too often leads us to ridiculous situations and destructive outcomes—and the grown decisions we must make to do what is most self-loving and advantageous to [...]

Grown Zone Radio: Say NO to Financial Foolery

Allowing emotions to drive poor financial decisions is not Grown. Chances are, you are a nice, decent person who wants what most people do: a healthy, safe and loving relationship, with someone you can trust, who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. However, if your finances remain a wreck regardless of your relationship status, your approach to love may be the biggest threat to both your financial security and [...]