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My Story: The High Price of Foregoing Relationship Education

Would you invest, say, $10,000 on a program of relationship education to avoid more than $100,000 in expenses and other costs resulting from poor relationship choices? Today, that’s a no-brainer for me: Absolutely, I would. But that was not always the case. For most of my adult life, like most people, I was firmly committed to the follow-your-heart, learn-by-experience, anything-for-love approach to relationships. By my 40th birthday, the results of [...]

Intention: The Key To Success In Life, Love And Relationships

How do you get what you want in life, love and relationships? Well, here’s what does not work: merely wishing for, wanting, needing and/or deserving it. You can’t succeed without intention. When people share access to the same information, resources, opportunities and experiences, yet do not get the same results, intention is the difference. Intention has nothing to do with what you wish for, hope for or what you say is important to you. [...]

Would You Let A 5-Year-Old Drive? Too Many People Do

I want to share an encounter with you, and through it, hopefully, you’ll be able to have an inner-child revelation of your own and stop letting him/her drive your life! I met an absolutely gorgeous, educated, delightful lady recently at the DMV who rejected every compliment I gave her. After our encounter (which lasted over an hour) and before we parted ways with tears in her eyes, she said, “I [...]

You Can’t Welcome Your Future If You Won’t Show Your Past the Door

Have you ever been at home with a plan that did not include anybody else, and then the door bell rings? …and rings…and whoever it is at the door just won’t let up off of the bell? “Ding-dong, ding-dong, ding-dong…” You hear the bell and you are trying with everything you’ve got to get “ready enough” to get to the door…”ding-dong, ding-DONG, DING-DONG…”  By now, you’re yelling…”ALRIGHT!” or “WHO IS [...]

I Wish You Knew Your Worth: An Open Letter to Women

Generally speaking, women don't know their worth. We've been fed so many conflicting (and often unhealthy) ideas, from so many different sources, about how we are to be, and what roles we should play. In addition, often by what's traditionally been our most trusted sources, we are instructed to expect less than we really deserve, and that there's a reward awaiting us for doing so. RELATED: Want Better From A [...]

Your Relationship Is Over. Now What?

Your relationship is over. Now what? Single life is about more than just killing time between relationships and searching for someone new to love you. It's about taking the following steps to learn, grow and love yourself: Reflect.  You must intentionally answer the question, “What just happened?” with a focus not on blaming or playing victim, but on exploring your choices, the emotions that drove them and your underlying beliefs. How do they compare to [...]

Why You Get Treated Like Crap In Relationships, Part 3

You’re a nice, decent person. You are loving, and want to be loved by others. So why are you always being treated like crap—especially in romantic relationships? Our latest offering in the Grown Zone Video series, "Why You Get Treated Like Crap In Relationships," focuses on sabotaging beliefs that cause you to attract, choose and tolerate mistreatment—even though you say it’s the last thing you want. In the second video in this [...]

How To Find And Keep The Greatest Love Of Your Life

You can’t have a faithful and fulfilling relationship with excellence while cheating with mediocrity. This is true in all areas of endeavor, from business to music and sports; it also applies to love and relationships. You don’t always get what’s healthy for you in love and relationships; but you always get what you accept. Unfortunately, too many of us never experience Grown, loving relationships of H.E.R.—Honor, Esteem and Respect—because we have [...]

Why You Get Treated Like Crap In Relationships, Part 2

You’re a nice, decent person. You are loving, and want to be loved by others. So why are you always being treated like crap—especially in romantic relationships? Our latest offering in the Grown Zone Video series, "Why You Get Treated Like Crap In Relationships," focuses on sabotaging beliefs that cause you to attract, choose and tolerate mistreatment—even though you say it’s the last thing you want. In the second video in this [...]

Don’t Be Misled By The Soulmate Myth

One of the most misleading myths related to how loving, healthy, romantic relationships are established is the concept of the “soulmate”–that one person, somewhere in the world, created (or in the language of the religious, anointed) just for you. This concept is promoted and celebrated in church, in books and especially in movies. Who can forget the climactic moment when Jerry Maguire (in the film of the same name) says [...]