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3 Reasons To Have Sex On The First Date (And Why Grown People Don’t Buy Into Them)

 “Yes, we had sex on the first date. I don’t care if anyone has a problem with that. I’m grown!” Sex on the first date is a classic example of what you have the adult right to do, but is rarely, if ever, the Grown, healthy, self-loving thing to do, especially if your goal is a loving, sustainable relationship of honor, esteem and respect. The societal stigma associated with first-date [...]

The Real Reason It’s So Hard to Find Love. (It’s Not What You Think.)

Our need for love is present from our time in the womb; our capacity for healthy growth and development (physical, mental and emotional) depends on it. We are born with both a predisposition to give and a longing to receive love, with our capacity to effectively do either relying on the other being fulfilled. So if we all have the capacity to love, and we all need love, why is [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: Why You’re Not Married… Yet

In the Grown Zone, we constantly stress that more time and energy should be invested in recognizing and building healthy relationships, after laying a solid foundation of self-love, instead of surrendering to our societal obsession with weddings. Unfortunately, most people, and women in particular, are taught to focus on wedding planning ahead of marriage planning, with the latter deferred until sometime after the honeymoon, if it happens at all. Marriage [...]

Grown Zone Book Shelf: The Relationship Dismount

Among the key concepts of our book Loving In The Grown Zone are that break-ups are inevitable for most relationships and that they should be approached as acts of love. Furthermore, the time after a break-up and between relationships are valuable opportunities for personal growth and to strengthen our foundation of self love. Indeed, the likelihood of a person becoming equipped to establish healthy, loving relationships of honor, esteem and [...]

Relationship Goals: What Good, Healthy Love Looks Like

Water is necessary to live. But not all water is safe to drink; in fact, if it is contaminated, it can be quite deadly. The same applies to relationships. To be Grown is to set higher standards for what healthy love and loving are—to accept not just anything that passes for love, but nothing less than Grown, healthy love, what we call Good Love. Helping people to stop chasing substitutes [...]

Speaking Grown Zone: A Glossary of Terms

Whether you are a long-time citizen of the Grown Zone Nation or you are new to the Grown Zone, it helps to speak the language of Grown and healthy personal growth spoken here. Following are the definitions of terms commonly used in the Grown Zone, including on our weekly radio show, in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, on social media (including our private Facebook group) and at our [...]

15 Things Grown People Believe That Mere Adults Don’t

We’re "Do-Better Fanatics," committed to the purpose of relationship education. Our mission here in the Grown Zone is to help you grow from adult choices to Grown Decisions. When you decide that you want to make better choices, engage in more self-love, and have healthy relationships, you are ready to enter the Grown Zone. In the Grown Zone, we recognize and honor the truth that not everything that we have [...]

Beyond Adulthood: 9 Keys To Living With A Grown Agenda

In the Grown Zone, we differentiate between being an adult, and being “Grown.” We recognize that most people view these terms as synonymous, but there is a significant difference between the two. All it takes to become an adult is to survive puberty; it is simply a matter of biological maturation—from infant, to toddler, to child, to tween, to teen, and then, adult. However, it is a mistake to view [...]

11 Things Called Love That Are Anything But

A major principle of Grown, self-loving decision-making, in pursuit of healthy relationships of honor, esteem and respect, is not just having a clear idea of what love is, but also being clear on what it is not. The ability to recognize and reject what you don’t want is often more important than knowing and getting what you do want, because failure to do the former can eliminate the possibility of [...]

4 Things We Are Told To Give Up For Love—And Why You Absolutely Shouldn’t

A theme you will hear repeatedly in our Grown Zone posts, on Grown Zone Radio and in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, is the importance of making your heart, body, money and home the last things you grant access to in a romantic (or any) relationship, not the first. You’ll do a much better job of making healthy, self-loving decisions—and avoid or quickly recover from unhealthy choices—if you [...]