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Don’t Be Misled By The Soulmate Myth

One of the most misleading myths related to how loving, healthy, romantic relationships are established is the concept of the “soulmate”–that one person, somewhere in the world, created (or in the language of the religious, anointed) just for you. This concept is promoted and celebrated in church, in books and especially in movies. Who can forget the climactic moment when Jerry Maguire (in the film of the same name) says [...]

Why You Get Treated Like Crap In Relationships, Part 1

You’re a nice, decent person. You are loving, and want to be loved by others. So why are you always being treated like crap—especially in romantic relationships? Our latest offering in the Grown Zone Video series, "Why You Get Treated Like Crap In Relationships," focuses on sabotaging beliefs that cause you to attract, choose and tolerate mistreatment—even though you say it’s the last thing you want. We start with: Part 1: People [...]

Popular Relationship Advice You Must Challenge To Find Healthy Love, Part 3

In the Grown Zone, we often disagree with conventional wisdom when it comes to love and relationships. In this 3-part series of videos, we point to widely promoted and popularly accepted relationship advice, and why it's often overrated when it comes to choosing and maintaining healthy relationships. In Part 3 of this three-part series, we address the following piece of broadly accepted relationship advice: Part 3: The definition of relationship success [...]

Popular Relationship Advice You Must Challenge To Find Healthy Love, Part 2

In the Grown Zone, we often disagree with conventional wisdom when it comes to love and relationships. In this 3-part series of videos, we point to widely promoted and popularly accepted relationship advice, and why it's often overrated when it comes to choosing and maintaining healthy relationships. In Part 2 of this series, we address the following piece of broadly accepted relationship advice: Part 2: To find true love you need [...]

Preparing For Love Means Facing The Truth About Your Grandparents’ Marriage

You wanna know how your grandparents “worked through” their problems and didn’t divorce? ‘Cause ya grandmamma most likely didn’t have her own assets or income and depended on your grandfather to support her and the family. She had no choice but to work it out. Also, the stigma a divorced woman would face? Pfffffft. Trust me, a lot of y’all’s grandfathers are/were awful people and your grandmother would’ve left him [...]

3 Romantic Notions You Must Reject For Your Own Good

An important step in making healthy decisions in the pursuit of loving, romantic relationships of honor, esteem and respect, is rejecting the romantic—and misguided—notions that many of us have been taught about what it takes to find love. It is critical that you identify and challenge these ideas and beliefs—whether planted by your parents, peers, popular culture, religious upbringing or other sources—and uproot them, especially when they don’t prove to [...]

Popular Relationship Advice You Must Challenge To Find Healthy Love, Part 1

In the Grown Zone, we often disagree with conventional wisdom when it comes to love and relationships. In this 3-part series of videos, we point to widely promoted and popularly accepted relationship advice, and why it's often overrated when it comes to choosing and maintaining healthy relationships. We start with: Part 1: Communication is the key to healthy relationships. “Better communication” is the near-universal, go-to solution for relationship problems, with countless [...]

3 Reasons To Have Sex On The First Date (And Why Grown People Don’t Buy Into Them)

 “Yes, we had sex on the first date. I don’t care if anyone has a problem with that. I’m grown!” Sex on the first date is a classic example of what you have the adult right to do, but is rarely, if ever, the Grown, healthy, self-loving thing to do, especially if your goal is a loving, sustainable relationship of honor, esteem and respect. The societal stigma associated with first-date [...]

Possession Consciousness Is Dangerous With Things And People

Are you setting yourself up for unnecessary heartbreak? Or allowing others to position you for unnecessary drama? Possession consciousness starts out quite innocently… “My Clothes – My Shoes – My Jewelry – My House  – My Car” But then there’s this level of possessiveness… “My Father – My Mother My Son – My Daughter My Man – My Woman” UH-OH! People Possession! (More on that a little later…) For the [...]

Relationship Goals: What Good, Healthy Love Looks Like

Water is necessary to live. But not all water is safe to drink; in fact, if it is contaminated, it can be quite deadly. The same applies to relationships. To be Grown is to set higher standards for what healthy love and loving are—to accept not just anything that passes for love, but nothing less than Grown, healthy love, what we call Good Love. Helping people to stop chasing substitutes [...]