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The Key To Success Is Not Loving What You Do, But Loving Who You Are

Conventional motivational wisdom preaches the importance of finding your passion, discovering and doing the things you love to do (even feel born to do) as the key to success and happiness. RELATED: 15 Things Grown People Believe That Mere Adults Don’t I disagree. Success and happiness are not about discovering, learning and loving what you do. They’re about discovering, learning and loving who you are. (These are NOT the same [...]

3 Things Keeping You From The Healthy Love You Say You Want

You say you want to be in a healthy, loving relationship. So why do your only options seem to be settling for less or being alone? If you are like most people, when asked about their dream relationship, you talk about wanting love, trust, respect, great sex, joyful intimacy and emotional safety. However, despite this near universal agreement on relationship desires and goals, the odds are that you are among [...]

Why The Love You Seek From Others Can’t Substitute For Self-Love

The love you accept from others will never exceed or substitute for the love you require of yourself. You will never gain unconditional love and acceptance from others if you won’t give it to yourself. The above statements are one of the foundational principles of Grown Zone Relationship Education, one of the concepts we've identified as among the "15 Things Grown People Believe That Mere Adults Don't." Regardless of your relationship [...]

15 Things Grown People Believe That Mere Adults Don’t

We’re "Do-Better Fanatics," committed to the purpose of relationship education. Our mission here in the Grown Zone is to help you grow from adult choices to Grown Decisions. When you decide that you want to make better choices, engage in more self-love, and have healthy relationships, you are ready to enter the Grown Zone. In the Grown Zone, we recognize and honor the truth that not everything that we have [...]

Beyond Adulthood: 9 Keys To Living With A Grown Agenda

In the Grown Zone, we differentiate between being an adult, and being “Grown.” We recognize that most people view these terms as synonymous, but there is a significant difference between the two. All it takes to become an adult is to survive puberty; it is simply a matter of biological maturation—from infant, to toddler, to child, to tween, to teen, and then, adult. However, it is a mistake to view [...]

4 Things We Are Told To Give Up For Love—And Why You Absolutely Shouldn’t

A theme you will hear repeatedly in our Grown Zone posts, on Grown Zone Radio and in our book Loving In The Grown Zone, is the importance of making your heart, body, money and home the last things you grant access to in a romantic (or any) relationship, not the first. You’ll do a much better job of making healthy, self-loving decisions—and avoid or quickly recover from unhealthy choices—if you [...]

3 Reasons Why It’s Never Too Soon To Graduate to Grown

Each year, hundreds of thousands of young people accept diplomas and degrees, taking major steps into new adulthood. If you happen to be one of them: Congratulations! However, whether you’ve just finished high school, earned an undergraduate degree, completed graduate or professional school or left your days of formal education to distant memory, one thing is true: It is never too early to move beyond mere adulthood and graduate to [...]

Sex Gets Too Much Credit As A Basis For Loving Relationships

Everybody, not only wants love, but needs it. There are times throughout life when you may be more focused on school, career, parenting or your own personal growth – all great reasons to not be boo’d up –  but there will come a time when you’ll want a consistent romantic relationship; somebody to share your life with. But too often, women who desire somebody to love them all life long [...]

Want Better From A Man? Then Change Your Qualifiers

Ask any man about his standards for “The One” and most of the time his list will be exhaustive! Go ahead! You can find a guy at the bus stop—boarding on borrowed money, with pants hanging off his ass, all grilled and tatted up, sneakers on his feet costing more than he’s actually earned in the past year, no education nor prospects for employment—and he’ll believe that he’s worthy of somebody [...]

9 Reasons You Should Read This Book And Help Change The Conversation About What Healthy Love Is

Our new book, Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem and Respect (Balboa Press) has been available for a few months now, and even before any formal promotional effort, the response has been all but overwhelming, with incredible social media buzz and great reviews at Amazon.com and other online booksellers. Now that our official promotional [...]