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Why Church-Based Premarital Counseling Does Not Prevent Divorce

The fact that you both love God does not automatically qualify you to love each other.—Grown Zone Relationship Education Co-Creator Alfred A. Edmond Jr. In the Grown Zone, we often challenge conventional wisdom, including overvalued and ineffective beliefs about how to create and sustain healthy relationships. One of these beliefs is the idea that church-based premarital counseling alone can provide engaged couples with enough preparation to establish a healthy, sustainable marriage. RELATED: [...]

Wedding Season: 3 Reasons To Break Your Engagement Now

It’s wedding season, and thousands of couples have passed, as of the moment of engagement, the point of no return. Yes, people do break off engagements, but as likely as not, they follow through and get married, whether it makes sense to do so or not. The inevitable nature of weddings is driven by two powerful (though false) societal beliefs: The ultimate achievement in love (especially for women) is a [...]

Grown Love And Money: Before You Marry, Do The Math

Marriage is a financial and legal contract, not just a spiritual, romantic and/or emotional commitment. This is a foundational theme of living and loving in the Grown Zone, but also a fact that is too often glossed over in our society’s all but obsessive fascination with love, weddings and babies—whether we are actually prepared for them or not. As we often point out in the Grown Zone, marriage, in particular, [...]

Preparing For Love Means Facing The Truth About Your Grandparents’ Marriage

You wanna know how your grandparents “worked through” their problems and didn’t divorce? ‘Cause ya grandmamma most likely didn’t have her own assets or income and depended on your grandfather to support her and the family. She had no choice but to work it out. Also, the stigma a divorced woman would face? Pfffffft. Trust me, a lot of y’all’s grandfathers are/were awful people and your grandmother would’ve left him [...]

3 Romantic Notions You Must Reject For Your Own Good

An important step in making healthy decisions in the pursuit of loving, romantic relationships of honor, esteem and respect, is rejecting the romantic—and misguided—notions that many of us have been taught about what it takes to find love. It is critical that you identify and challenge these ideas and beliefs—whether planted by your parents, peers, popular culture, religious upbringing or other sources—and uproot them, especially when they don’t prove to [...]

Grown Love And Money: Financial Planning Comes Before Wedding Planning

I am really bothered by the results of a recent poll of engaged couples on the website of the National Foundation for Credit Counseling. The poll reveals that 68 percent of respondents held negative attitudes toward discussing money with their fiance. Five percent indicated that talking about money with their fiance would cause them to call off the wedding. Well, guess what? If you can’t talk about your finances with [...]

Wedding Season In The Grown Zone: Alfred and Zara Are Married

“I’m going to marry you,” he said. “I’m going to let you,” she replied. On October 6, 2015, Alfred Adam Edmond Jr. and Zara Denise Green, already partners in business, life and love, fulfilled their intentions and became husband and wife. In a ceremony deliberately planned and executed as “a whisper,” the co-founders of the Grown Zone and co-authors of the book Loving In The Grown Zone exchanged vows and wedding bands. The wedding [...]

Wedding Season: What We’ve Learned From 4 Failed Marriages

As widely recognized and trusted sources of advice on healthy relationships, and the authors of Loving In The Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem, and Respect (Balboa Press), people are often surprised to find that we are not married, although we are committed to each other as life partners. (Radio Host Tom Joyner and Comedian J. Anthony [...]