This is a fact. However, it is too often stated to infer something that is not true: It is impossible—and therefore unreasonable to expect—to create, nurture and sustain a healthy, consistently loving relationship.
As a result, too many people accept that dissatisfaction, neglect, infidelity, abuse, disrespect, conflict, exploitation and betrayal are natural, normal and unavoidable characteristics of romantic relationships, and certainly of marriage. We are presented with a choice: Relationships that don’t last, and relationships that do, as long as participants are willing to endure inevitable suffering, mistreatment and victimization.
Loving in the Grown Zone: A No-Nonsense Guide to Making Healthy Decisions in the Quest for Loving, Romantic Relationships of Honor, Esteem, and Respect is a rejection of that thinking. It is testament to our belief that while there may be no such thing as a perfect relationship, that is not justification for accepting anything less than healthy relationships. Furthermore, establishing such healthy, loving, resilient relationships are not a matter of luck or chance, but of intention, learnable skills and practices, and commitment to personal growth.