Among the key concepts of our book Loving In The Grown Zone are that break-ups are inevitable for most relationships and that they should be approached as acts of love. Furthermore, the time after a break-up and between relationships are valuable opportunities for personal growth and to strengthen our foundation of self love. Indeed, the likelihood of a person becoming equipped to establish healthy, loving relationships of honor, esteem and respect is largely dependent on how he or she approaches life as a single person, and their ability to learn from past relationship experiences in order to make better decisions in future relationships.
Author and radio personality Renard “Zo” Williams goes deeper into how best to approach the ending of a relationship in his latest book, The Relationship Dismount: How to Stick the Landing When Exiting A Toxic Relationship. Williams’ book is an insightful, practical guide to understanding the purpose of relationships (to learn more about self) and breaking up in a way that is healthy (or as we would say, Grown) and loving of self, if not of our erstwhile partners. Also, at the end of each chapter, Williams invites the reader to complete exercises and answer questions designed to prompt healthy self-examination of choices and motivations in relationships, emphasizing personal accountability over blaming exes, or posing as a victim of love itself.
Throughout the book, Williams shares pieces of his own story, including how childhood and family experiences shaped his emotional responses and expectations in relationships, for better or (more often) worse. With chapters devoted to topics such as self-reflection and self-examination, accountability, forgiveness, and moving forward to future relationships as a better (not bitter) person, The Relationship Dismount is a must-read for those who need a clear rationale for leaving unhealthy relationships, a sound framework for deciding when staying together is the right thing to do, or who need help to stop having the same relationship over and over again, with the same or different people.