The hunter/prey gender-role model also sets women and girls up to literally compete for the role of prey, in response to what has been communicated to them by music, movies—and yes, relationship experts—about how they are valued: usually by the length of their hair, the depth of their cleavage and the breadth of their butts. This is why so many adult females (not Grown women) dangle their bodies (or their financial resources or other assets) as bait in competition with other women in order to attract a “hunter” of choice, and then to somehow convince him that she is “The One” worthy of being kept and cared for, not used and disposed of. Too often, being chosen as The One means being captured and “domesticated” as the “main chick” or wife, kept for nourishment, sex and breeding (and perhaps more income), in between “hunting” expeditions.
This false and dangerous notion of men as hunters of women is just one more reason why I and my Grown Zone Relationship Education Co-Creator Zara vehemently challenge popular relationship advice rooted in useless generalizations of how people of one gender or the other are, or are meant to be. When it comes to making healthy relationship decisions, understanding what is unique about an individual man or woman will always be more important than understanding what they might have in common with other men and women. Being treated (or expected to act or think) like a “typical” woman or man is the furthest thing from being genuinely and specifically loved for who you are.
It is not only inaccurate, but irresponsible to teach that “hunting” girls and women is a healthy and appropriate standard for Grown manhood. Human beings, regardless of gender, are not created to be hunted. Any relationship founded on that premise is inherently unhealthy. The Grown Zone standard for healthy relationships is H.E.R.: Honor, Esteem and Respect. The relationship between hunter and prey is the furthest thing from that standard. Hunters do not honor, esteem or respect—much less love—their prey.
Both men and women are created with the capacity to both hunt and nurture, whether alone or (in a model of healthy relationships) in partnership with one another. (And yes, women can be predators, too.) However, neither was created to hunt or be hunted (or held in captivity) by the other. Whether you are male or female, if you are committed to healthy, loving, sustainable relationships, reject the false idea that men are hunters, with women as their prey.
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