I immediately told her what I saw: “Okay, so it’s good makeup, but your skin is smooth,” and then instructed, “Now say ‘thank you’,” which opened a dialogue about how bad she is at accepting compliments and how her current boyfriend has stopped giving them to her because there’s no convincing her of her beauty. In addition, Nancy has large round clear eyes, high cheek bones and a smile that’ll light any room. AND, she was a sweetheart.
Here’s the Nitty Gritty:
Beginning when Nancy was as young as five years old, her mother called her ugly. She’s a 45-year-old, accomplished woman, and that tape still plays in her head. Because she is a good person, she’s attracted good people, but because she’s never gotten new tools to heal that 40-year-old wound, that five-year-old is still driving her life today, and driving people away. In her mind (although she hadn’t connected that until we spoke), her looks determined her worth, and her thoughts, emotions and feelings are dictated by them. This wears people out and they leave, including the men in her life. She’s afraid this one will too. And if she doesn’t get it together, she’ll be right!
Grown Zone Principle: The love you accept from others will never exceed or substitute for the love you require of yourself.
Self-love is not a warm and fuzzy (or girlie) concept. Unless and until you heal that inner child of whatever wounds that occurred at whatever age—five, seven, 12, 16, 21, 30 or 50—he or she is driving your life. For most of us, we’ve had painful, teachable, pivotal moments throughout our lives and it’s why personal growth is so necessary; it’s the only way to release the pain and embrace the lessons. Your inner child’s current cries are purposeful. Tend to them. When you do, you can embrace them for the lessons they came to teach and they’ll become part of the tapestry of your life; beautifully woven and no longer hurting you, rather serving you.
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